The thing is that, Ms. Small-Town-Confusion, we place guys like your buddy within the category of, He’s Not Gay, But He has got Gay Tendencies. The reason by this is certainly their mannerisms and actions would immediately make one assume, based entirely on observation, they have been homosexual. Yet, with them, you discover they are not gay, they are just slightly effeminate as you get to know these men, have conversation, and hang out. And, it may be in line with the reality they talk to a lisp, utilize their fingers if they talk, carry man-bags, and like being well-groomed. Those usually do not make a guy homosexual.